Why am I Involved with a Jerk ... AGAIN?

If you have been in a committed relationship for a while -- or if you have been sitting by the phone for years -- this isn't for you. However, if you are now involved with a jerk and you're asking yourself "Why am I involved with a jerk ... again?" then this book is for you.

The genesis of this book arose from two sources. The first was my experience as a moderator, in the 1980s, for an online discussions forum dealing with human sexuality and dating. The second impetus for this book was an article from Ms. Magazine to which I had been a subscriber for many years. This was a front cover article about six women in abusive relationships. The article focused on the qualities that made the relationships abusive. I believe that the intent was to show women how to recognize that they were in an abusive relationship. While this was, and is, a worthy objective, I felt that something else would have been more useful. These women were strong, intelligent, successful, talented, and attractive - able to pick between many different men (at that time, only heterosexual relationships were considered). Yet they chose these men. Why?

A single relationship doesn't really indicate anything. We can all be "fooled". Perhaps we can also be fooled in different ways at different times. However, as the saying goes: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me". This book is for those people who find themselves involved with a jerk ... AGAIN.