Tell Someone Who Cares

Caring for someone you love can be one of life's most meaningful roles-and one of its most emotionally complex. As your time, energy and identity gradually shift around someone else's needs, it can become difficult-and sometimes even feel shameful-to acknowledge your own experience.

You can love someone deeply, yet still feel completely trapped.

Tell Someone Who Cares gives language to the emotional contradictions of caring. Rather than offering quick fixes or telling carers to simply "look after yourself", it provides a compassionate, strengths-based approach to understanding what is happening beneath the surface of the caring relationship.

Drawing on lived experience alongside her work as a family mediator and author, Rosemary Gattuso helps readers make sense of the emotional contradictions that often accompany caring-including love, resentment, gratitude and grief-without judgement or self-blame. The book also recognises the inner experience of the person receiving care, offering a more complete understanding of the relationship.

Through reflective prompts, practical tools, real-life examples and a strengths-based framework, carers learn to question unhelpful self-judgements, recognise patterns in their thinking, reconnect with their sense of self, and continue to care with greater clarity, compassion and emotional sustainability.

Whether you are caring for a parent, partner, spouse, child, family member, or someone else you love, Tell Someone Who Cares is a compassionate companion that reminds you that your experience matters, too.