This thought-provoking study offers many examples of how women consistently place their needs last after those of their children and spouses, and examines the long-lasting negative effects of this kind of self-deprivation. Social psychologist Carin Rubenstein identifies the roots of this maternal instinct, points out the harmful consequences that can result, offers guidance for getting out of the self-sacrifice trap, and, most important, teaches women how to accept and nurture themselves as well as their families.