Fight or Father

"Mitesh's book has heart. He reaches out to dads through his conversational style of writing, giving them meaningful and practical ways to approach fathering from a place of calm. Especially helpful for those who feel they lack a fathering role model."

- Dr James Brown, Clinical Psychologist and Board Member, The Fathering Project

"This is the book so many fathers didn't know they needed. A powerful, practical path from reactivity to real connection, reminding us that being present isn't about perfection, but about choosing, moment by moment, to truly show up."

- Dr Christopher Lewis, Host of The Dad & Daughter Connection Podcast

Every father has been there. The short fuse at the end of a long day. The moment you raise your voice and instantly wish you hadn't. The quiet guilt of being physically present but mentally somewhere else.

Mitesh Khatri spent years like this, succeeding at work while feeling like he was failing at home. He was there for dinner, for bath time, for the weekend. But he wasn't really there. It took a few honest moments with his children to realise that the habits making him successful were quietly costing him the thing he cared about most: connection with his kids.

Fight or Father is an honest, practical guide for fathers who want to stop reacting and start connecting. Drawing on personal stories, the science of stress and the nervous system, and hard-won lessons, Mitesh introduces CALM, a simple, repeatable framework for showing up as the father you want to be, especially in the moments that test you most.

This isn't about being a perfect dad. It's about being a present one. About learning to manage your own state before you respond, repairing the ruptures when you slip, and building the kind of relationship with your children that lasts.

For every father who has ever felt they were getting it wrong. You're not broken. You're carrying a lot. And it's never too late to begin again.