I'm Your Daughter Not Your Carer: A guide to navigating the carenting journey

The phone rings in the early evening. It is usually a daughter.

She is organised, capable, and quietly falling apart. She manages the appointments, the medication, the unopened post. She reassures her parent, her siblings, her partner. She holds everything together - and tells everyone she is fine.

This book is for her.

I'm Your Daughter, Not Your Carer is a warm, honest, and deeply practical guide for the millions of people navigating the care of an ageing parent while trying to hold on to their own lives. Through the stories of daughters - and a few sons - who have walked this path before you, Clare Jefferies draws on more than fifteen years in professional homecare, and her own experience of loss, to offer something rarely found in books about ageing parents: the truth about what it actually feels like.

The guilt. The resentment. The love. The exhaustion. The moments of grace.

You do not have to do this alone. And you do not have to lose yourself in the process.

Remember:

You were their daughter first. You still are.